Pregnancy at 35 means high risk! Or does it? If you are nearing or over this age, you must be coming across a lot of confusing and contradictory information. It helps to read about the real experience of moms who have been there. I am sharing my own experiences on pregnancy after 35 to help you make up your mind.
Disclaimer: This article should not be construed as medical advice. Every woman and her physical history is different. I am merely stating my own experiences with my pregnancy at 35 years of age for other women who are looking to know about other women’s encounters with the situation.
Planning a Pregnancy at or after 35
Are you planning to welcome your little bundle of joy? Congratulations! It is one of the best things that will ever happen to you. I had my first pregnancy at the age of 25. After spacing the kids 5 years apart (unintentionally), I welcomed my 3rd child around my 35th birthday. That makes it possible to compare my pregnancies before and after 30 years of age. While I experienced none of the risks said to be associated with pregnancy at 35, I did notice many changes – new medical conditions to be specific! I will talk about all of them in this post.
Please remember that this was also my 3rd pregnancy. A 1st Pregnancy after 35 could be different/difficult but I am not qualified to comment on it.
Trouble Conceiving? No.
One of the major risks thought to be associated with late pregnancy is the difficulty in conceiving. While this is unfortunately true for many women (including several friends and relatives of mine), I faced no difficulty whatsoever in conceiving. In fact, I believe the hype of infertility due to age could be overrated. There are many other reasons that can cause infertility too.
Problems during Delivery? No.
I neither faced any problems during delivery and childbirth, nor did my baby. It was exactly the same as the previous two.
Increased Care and Caution? Yes.
We have efficient gynecologists who work with pregnant women throughout their pregnancy to ensure a good experience. Frequent check ups, blood tests to ward away any alarms and a close check to monitor the baby helped make my third pregnancy at 35 go smoothly.
Increased Blood Pressure? Yes.
I had NEVER had BP problems before (pregnant or not), but it did happen this time around. I was prescribed some medication for it and all passed well. I am back to my health blood pressure now, after giving birth.
Gestational Diabetes? No.
I do not have any genetic diabetes problems and it was not one of the issues during my pregnancy also. We did keep conducting regular tests for the same, though.
Hyperthyroidism was something new to me and I couldn’t believe I was suffering from it. But I was. I was prescribed a medicine for it and continued it throughout my pregnancy. No signs of it now. I do not require the medication any longer.
Twins? Triplets? No (Baah!!!!)
No such luck! My dream of having 4 babies had already been cut short by my gynecologist because I had had more C-sections that I had bargained for. I would have loved to have twins to complete my dream. But alas, this did not happen. I gave birth to a lovely baby girl 🙂
This pregnancy was very, very tiring! I felt extremely fatigued at all times. EXHAUSTION should be the correct term here. Sometimes, I thought it was because I already had 2 kids to take care of, but in reality, my body was reacting to this pregnancy very differently. There was a vast amount of difference in my pregnancies before 30 and the one after 30. I had to deal with a lot of deficiencies that I managed to combat with supplements and diet changes. Iron and calcium, most of all.
Well Informed? Yes
In spite of all the new medical conditions and a tired body, I felt much more aware and informed. It wasn’t the same as the 25 year old me, not knowing what to do or how to act. I was super confident. Part of the reason for that was also the fact that I already had 2 kids. But the 35 year old me was much more decisive and good at taking care of myself. By the age of 35, I was knowledgeable enough to know that I needed to keep my daily lifestyle as active as possible without injuring or over-tiring myself. I was very careful not to skip any vitamins and supplements because I did not want to feel drained after childbirth. By the time I got pregnant for the third time, I was also experienced enough, by now, to bust some pregnancy myths.
Enjoyed Every Bit? Yes!
I no longer took pregnancy as an excuse to pause my entire life. I treated it like an important event in my life and always kept my future goals/life after pregnancy also in mind. In fact, I had a very fulfilling 9 months, where I enjoyed with my family, kept myself busy with work, ate right and exercised in moderation. I was also enlightened enough to accept the limitations of my body at 35 and worked accordingly. There was a whole lot of pampering and self-indulgence too…lol!
Would I Get Pregnant Again? Yes
I know my gynecologist does not agree with me and I do not wish to go against her. She has medical reasons and is thinking about my physical safety. But if you want to how I feel after a pregnancy at 35 and am I ready to go for it again, the answer is YES. I feel completely recovered. My fitness levels are good and I wouldn’t mind (actually I would Love!) getting pregnant to have my 4th as we had always wanted. I feel totally psyched up for it.
I do not wish to make light of the health risks associated with pregnancy after 35, but I do believe that age is not the only factor associated with pregnancy risks. It all depends upon other things such as fitness, lifestyle, genetics etc. Getting pregnant at a later age does come with some health issues, but they could happen without the pregnancy being in question as well. The medical conditions that I contacted, were not so bad and simple medications solved them all.
And finally, I place my trust in a much higher authority. When God chooses to bless you with a child, he takes care of everything else too. He did that for me and he will do so for you. And with all the good things happening in my life after giving birth to my 3rd, I can tell you my life just began at 35!